Science is currently trying to figure out why so-called prostate orgasms feel so intense—but, frankly, the why is unimportant. So, I talked with Sex and Relationships coach Dr. Charlie Glickman, PhD, who literally wrote the book on prostate pleasure to explain just how to enjoy this under-appreciated erogenous zone. Glickman's first point? Plus, porn stars are people who are likely having anal sex multiple times a week. For the best chance at a life-changing, earth-quaking orgasm, he also recommends—seriously, listen to this—experimenting with butt play solo at first. The second is that you can stop immediately once something becomes painful or uncomfortable. You don't have to worry about finding the right words to avoid killing the mood or discouraging your partner from ever trying this again. Additionally, don't try to go from 0 to 60 in the beginning. Glickman recommends getting turned on using your go-to's, the things you already know you like.
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Relationships, like produce, milk and reality television stars, have a shelf life. Most couples find that after a few weeks, months, or years, the luster fades and the initial carnal fury that brought them together has dissipated. The moldy codgers who get past this sexual brick wall do so by developing an elaborate series of coping mechanisms. Infidelity is common in scenarios where one or both sexual partners become fed up with plain vanilla missionary. Sometimes, the couple just resigns themselves to erotic entropy, and embraces a sort of marital celibacy typified by the nightly ritual of 'reading magazines' or 'checking the scores on ESPN.
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Lots of straight men are turned off by the idea of anal play to be fair, many bi and gay men are too , and as a result are missing out on a whole world of fun. This is the third in a multi-part series from After Hours about anal play. You can see the other posts in the series as they come out here. Seriously though, your anus and rectum are full of nerve endings, just like your penis. Your rectum is also home to your prostate gland , another pleasure center. Anal play feels great on its own, and can lead to unbelievably intense orgasms. Lots of bi and gay men enjoy oral sex. Of course not.
Takeaway: Safe and pleasurable anal play is all about following a few key rules. Anal sex can be a little frightening for straight guys - at least, at first. That doesn't mean they aren't interested, though. Here we'll take a look at some of the things that might concern a hetero guy who wants to try anal play - and provides some tips on how to have the best, most mind-blowing orgasm you can ever have. But first, I want to add a note that this is an article for straight men, by a straight man. As a result, the terms and pronouns used here are geared toward heterosexual men in heterosexual relationships. Please don't take offense if these words do not match your sexual preference, relationship type, pronoun choice, or gender. If you've ever had an unpleasant medical exam with an anal examination, you may think that all anal play feels like that. The truth is that people are nervous when they go to the doctor and tend to clench up a bit. This is one of the worst things you can do to start anal play.